Feel-good emotional language can talk someone into feeling happy around us. You can influence a person’s mind just by using the right words. Speaking with special feeling words will cause the conscious mind of your listener to become absorbed in your meaning, clearing a path to the subconscious and ultimate influence. With the right verbal cues, you can talk to someone about something completely unrelated to sexual characteristics, all the while giving their subconscious promises of sensual pleasure.
When used properly, the power of feel-good words affects the subconscious, which then associates sensuous, feel-good desires and memories with you. Your partner will see you as incredibly attractive and desirable, perhaps without even being able to put a finger on why.
Tones, Inflections, and Pauses
Feel-good emotional language is most effective when you use special tones, inflections, and pauses in your speech. Well-timed actions, like the wave of a hand or the pointing of a finger, will increase the effectiveness. You can make your partner feel good without them realizing they are being subconsciously enchanted. You will not be talking about lovemaking or relationships. You will simply be talking about the weather, the stock market, or some other mundane, everyday topic. The person listening to you will simply think you have an interesting way of talking and acting, at least on the conscious level.
On the subconscious level, however, that same person will feel naturally attracted to you, and realize that being around you makes them feel good, excited, and aroused. You will become a fascinating, mysterious person, and time spent with you feels wild for a change.
Use positive feeling words to get in touch with your own feelings. They are also useful for listening to the feelings of others and identifying what the other person is currently experiencing.
Depending on the intensity of a positive feeling, identify it with one of these words:
- Intense Positive Feeling Words: Loved, adored, idolized, alive, wanted, lustful, worthy, respected, empathetic, awed, enthusiastic, zealous, courageous.
- Strong Positive Feeling Words: Enchanted, arduous, infatuated, tender, vibrant, independent, capable, happy, proud, gratified, sympathetic, important, concerned, appreciated, consoled, delighted, eager, optimistic, joyful, courage, hopeful, valiant, brave, brilliant.
- Moderate Positive Feeling Words: Liked, cared for, esteemed, affectionate, fond of, excited, patient, gay, inspired, anticipating, amused, popular, peaceful, appealing, determined, pleased, excited, jolly, relieved, glad, adventurous, peaceful, and intelligent.
- Mild Positive Feeling Words: Friendly, regarded, benevolent, wide awake, at ease, relaxed, comfortable, content, keen, alert, sure, attractive, approved, untroubled, graceful, turned on, warm, amused, daring.
Voyage of Notions
Feeling words take us on a voyage into the notions and sensations we share in common. Take the time to breathe life into your speeches by using intense feeling words with an edge of spirituality to them. Words like amazing, marvelous, mind-blowing, wonderful, incredible, extraordinary, unbelievable, fantastic, and phenomenal will touch someone profoundly and holistically—in their mind, body, and spirit.
Most of us can remember a remark directed our way that stuck with us. Often, these memorable statements made us see what someone else saw, hear what they heard, smell what they smelled, and feel what they felt; in short, they engaged our senses and connected us with feeling words. Sometimes, the full extent of a feeling word is difficult to comprehend unless it is broken into duo words.
When you put feeling words and sensory words together, it is easier to recognize what the feeling word really means. Using passionate language makes people feel good about themselves and about you. If you want to harvest the delicious fruit of passionate enthusiasm in your relationship, then pay close attention and become a student of your significant other.
Females are often more receptive to the following primary emotions: comfortable, relaxed, content, secure, and welcome. Basically, anything that indicates a level of pleasant contentment that will allow someone to then be vulnerable stimulates women conversationally. Males, on the other hand, seem to be more receptive to these primary emotions: pampered, entertained, inspired, important, extravagant, elegant, and sophisticated. A sense of refined power stimulates males in conversation.
Pinning Down Emotions
Words hold a unique power: they can fill you with emotion, imbibe you with a concept, or charm you with a notion as soon as they are uttered or thought. From the following word lists, you will learn how to: Seize a person’s attention; Engage and arouse their emotions; Verbalize in ways that release their emotional needs to be freely discussed and fulfilled; And quickly arouse the other person’s body without even touching them, by attaching life and meaning to your words.
How Do You Feel Happy? Are you delighted, joyful, festive, contented, complacent, satisfied, serene, comfortable, peaceful, tranquil, ecstatic, rapturous, elated, enthusiastic, inspired, glad, beatific, pleased, blissful, cheerful, genial, cheery, sunny, high-spirited, exultant, light-hearted, buoyant, debonair, bright, free and easy, airy, exuberant, saucy, jaunty, lively, spirited, animated, jubilant, vivacious, brisk, sparkling, merry, mirthful, exhilarated, jovial, jolly, playful, gleeful, or frisky?
How Do You Feel Sad? Are you crestfallen, despondent, disheartened, discouraged, low spirited, ill at ease, sorrowful, downcast, dejected, unhappy, depressed, disconsolate, melancholy, out of sorts, heavy-hearted, discontented, glum, moody, moping, sullen, somber, sulky, joyless, spiritless, dismal, dark, clouded, mournful, dreadful, oppressed, downhearted, flat, dull, gloomy, cheerless, woeful, woebegone, dreary, or down in the dumps?
- How Do You Feel Angry? Are you resentful, annoyed, inflamed, provoked, incensed, infuriated, offended, irritated, sullen, wrought up, worked up, indignant, irate, enraged, sulky, bitter, virulent, acrimonious, boiling, furious, in a stew, up in arms, in a huff, turning, or wrathful?
- How Do You Feel Hurt? Are you injured, offended, grieved, distressed, in pain, sad, suffering, afflicted, worried, aching, crushed, pathetic, victimized, heartbroken, hapless, in despair, agonized, tragic, tortured, piteous, woeful, rueful, or mournful?
- How Do You Feel Afraid? Are you fearful, frightened, timid, nervous, diffident, fainthearted, scared, tremulous, shaky, apprehensive, fidgety, aghast, terrified, panicked, hysterical, alarmed, shocked, horrified, insecure, anxious, worried, threatened, menaced, upset, doubtful, suspicious, hesitant, irresolute, appalled, or petrified?
- How Do You Feel Interested? Are you concerned, affected, fascinated engrossed, intrigued, absorbed, excited, curious, inquisitive, nosy, or snoopy?
- How Do You Feel Fearless? Are you encouraged, courageous, secure, reassured, bold, brave, daring, gallant, heroic, self-reliant, spirited, resolute, stout-hearted, enterprising, determined, audacious, dauntless, or certain?
- How Do You Feel Doubtful? Are you unbelieving, skeptical, distrustful, suspicious, dubious, uncertain, questioning, wavering, hesitant, perplexed, or indecisive?
- How Do You Feel Eager? Are you earnest, intent, ardent, zealous, enthusiastic, avid, hot-headed, or desirous?
The Alphabet of Feelings
The energy of words gives communication its emotional power. Emotions are a key ingredient in the behavior of conscious beings. You cannot touch feelings, but they have an incredible impact on our daily lives. In fact, the only sense that can engage feelings in another person on some level is hearing.
Change your language and change your world. Use this alphabet of feelings to hone in on exactly what you’re experiencing, so the other person can make that vital connection with you.
A: Accepted, accommodated, accommodating, accomplished, accountable, acknowledged, acquiescent, acquisitive, admired, adored, advanced, affectionate, affluent, affronted, aggressive, alive, allured, alluring, amazed, ambushed, amused, anticipating, anxious, appealing, applauded, appreciated, appreciative, apprehensive, appropriate, approved of, aroused, artful, artificial, artistic, astonished, astounded, at ease, at home, attached, attractive, authentic, awakened, aware, awestruck, awkward.
B: Balanced, bashful, beckoned, blown away, blue, bold, brave, broken, burdened, burned out, bypassed.
C: Callous, calm, capable, cared for, carefree, careless, caring, cautious, censored, centered, certain, chagrined, challenged, charismatic, charitable, charmed, cheerful, cherished, childish, chipper, cleansed, clear, clever, close, collected, comfortable, committed, compassionate, competent, competitive, complete, compliant, composed, conceited, concerned, condemned, confident, confined, considerate, conspicuous, constructive, contained, contemplative, contemptuous, content, contentious, controlled, conventional, cornered, courageous, cowardly, crazy, creative, cross, curious.
D: Daring, dazed, dedicated, delicate, delighted, demanding, demented, dependent, deserving, desirable, determined, devastated, devoted, different, diverted, dropped.
E: Eager, easygoing, ecstatic, educated, effective, elated, empathetic, empowered, enchanted, encouraged, energetic, energized, engaged, enhanced, enlightened, entertained, enthralled, enthusiastic, esteemed, examined, excellent, excited, excluded, exhausted, exhilarated, expectant, extravagant, exuberant.
F: Faithful, fantastic, fatalistic, fearless, feisty, fervent, flabbergast, and fine, focused, foolish, forgiven, forgiving, fortunate, framed, frantic, free, friendly, frightened, frisky, frustrated, fulfilled, full, funny, and furious.
G: Generous, gentle, giving, glad, glorious, good, grateful, great.
H: Happy, healthy, helpful, high-spirited, honored, hopeful, hospitable, humble, hurt.
I: Idealistic, idolized, important, imposed upon, impressed, impulsive, in control, in the way, incensed, incredulous, indebted, indecisive, independent, industrious, inept, innocent, innovative, intense, interested, interrogated, interrupted, intimate, intrigued, invigorated.
J: Jaded, jolly, jovial, joyful, jubilant, justified.
K: Keen, kind, kinky, knowledgeable.
L: Legitimate, liberated, liked, listened to, logical, loved, loving, and lucky.
M: Merry, modest, motivated, moved, and mystified.
N: Needed, nervous, nostalgic, noticed, and numb.
O: Obeyed, obligated, odd, open, opportunistic, optimistic, overcome, overjoyed.
P: Pampered, passionate, patient, peaceful, perky, playful, pleased, positive, powerful, practical, praised, precocious, private, productive, protective, proud, pushy, puzzled.
R: Rambunctious, reactive, realistic, reassured, receptive, reconciled, redeemed, reflective, refreshed, rejuvenated, relaxed, released, relieved, renewed, repentant, replaced, replenished, reproached, rescued, reserved, resistant, resourceful, respected, responsible, reverent, revitalized, revolted, rich, right, romantic, rushed.
S: Safe, sassy, satisfied, secure, seductive, self-assured, self-confident, self-conscious, self-reliant, selfish, sensitive, sentimental, serene, serious, sexy, shocked, significant, singled out, skillful, small, smart, smothered, solemn, soothed, sophisticated, sorry, special, spellbound, spent, spirited, spiteful, splendid, spunky, stifled, stimulated, strained, stressed, stretched, strong, stubborn, stumped, stunned, stupid, subservient, successful, sullen, superb, superior, supported, suppressed, sure, surly, surprised, susceptible, suspicious, sympathetic.
T: Talented, teased, tenacious, tender, tense, tepid, terrific, thankful, thoughtful, thrilled, tranquil, transformed, treasured, tremendous, trusted.
U: United, unknown, uplifted, used.
V: Vain, valid, valued, and victorious.
W: Warm, wealthy, whole, wild, willful, wishful, witty, worldly, worthy.
Z: Zany, zealous.
Romance, seduction, and passion—we all want them, we all spend our lives searching for them, but few of us actually find them. We want to find that special someone who brings the sensation of butterflies to our stomachs when they walk into the room—and we wish those feelings could be there for life. They can. It starts with your language.
Carefully listen to yourself to hear the words with which you define and confine your life. The words you use create the story you consider your life.
When composing seductive messages, match words with appropriate body language. The phrase “actions speak louder than words” is still true. The powerful combination of words and actions delivered in one seductive message is enormous. You are sure never to go wrong.